“In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, Do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness..”
And here I thought I was getting away from the having to watch the nothing negative! : )
Yesterday was a success though, I didn’t say anything negative when I wanted to, and honestly, I can’t even remember what things would’ve caused me to say negative things anyway. Maybe when we ”eat our words” we find what annoyed us really isn’t that important anyway… I mean if you can’t even remember it, is it really a big deal? At least that’s what I was realizing driving home from work yesterday… I was trying to remember the instances when I had to bite my tongue that day- couldn’t even do it!
I was speaking with a friend of mine today about her relationships and I was finally able to put into words what I have been doing or trying to do… My advice to her was what I am trying to reach as well. The best advice I can give is that loving is never about you, it should be selfless, all always about the other person… no matter how hard that is, or whether you feel your wronged or whatever.
I really liked the Power of the Praying Wife because while VERY HUMBLING, it teaches you that you can never expect to change someone, you can only change how you act towards them and pray to God to lead the other person in the right direction, which may not even be the direction you’re expecting. : )
The Love Dare is sort of an extension of that, but more about molding yourself, it preaches that the cornerstones of love are Kindness and patience and everything else is built off that.
Patience it the HARDEST thing for me, it’s so much easier for me to just throw a fit or whatever if I don’t think I am getting the help I need or be critical or whatever… these are the things I want to change. I want my husband to not just love me, but also be proud that I am his wife, I want my kids to be proud that I am their mom. That’s why I am on this journey…. My goal is for my life to be about them… to me that is the best way I can serve God and lead them to God. I want them to want to know God because of my actions…. So I set this goal for myself and it’s what I am striving for…
She also asked me if my husband was doing The Love Dare for me. My response to that was this:
No he’s not, but he is being really supportive of it
I told him he should think about doing it for me after I was done
He didn’t laugh it off, so he just might
But it’s really not about him doing it for me…
I believe I can make our relationship even better by realizing things and changing things about myself
One of the hardest things for me, and a lot of people I am sure… is loving him to the best of my ability no matter what… no matter whether that is reciprocated or not and that’s what I feel like I need to work on for me…
Hence why I started Power of the Praying Wife and also The Love Dare.
